Pillar 2: Managing Heightened and Decisional Conflict
Reproductive grief can significantly impact couples by fostering both heightened conflict and decisional conflict. The emotional strain experienced by one or both partners can lead to communication breakdowns, misunderstandings, and increased tension, intensifying relational conflict (Kendall-Tackett, 2005). Additionally, the uncertainty and emotional turmoil surrounding reproductive loss can create decisional conflict, as couples may struggle to make decisions about future pregnancies or treatments, often due to differing desires, fears, or expectations (Cohen, 2010). These dynamics can challenge the couple's ability to work together, complicating their path toward resolution and healing (Shreffler, 2012).
Connecting Through Conflict
Self-regulation and open dialogue are essential in managing heightened and decisional conflict during reproductive grief, as they help couples navigate emotional distress and make collaborative decisions. Self-regulation enables individuals to control emotional reactions, reducing the risk of escalating conflicts (Baumeister et al., 2007). By maintaining emotional balance, partners can engage in more empathetic conversations, addressing their differing needs without blame. Open dialogue also fosters mutual understanding, helping both partners express their emotions and desires, which reduces misunderstandings and strengthens decision-making (Gottman, 1999). Together, self-regulation and communication provide a foundation for resolving conflict and making joint decisions during reproductive grief.